Regina Brett, 90 years old, of Cleveland , celebrated growing older by writing down a few life lessons. In doing so she created a famous article of those things that we need to read and internalise for application in so many emotional and life circumstances. Here they are with acknowledgement of her Wisdom:
- Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.
- When in doubt, just take the next small step.
- Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and family will.
- You don’t have to win every argument.
- Stay true to yourself.
- Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.
- It’s OK to get angry with God. He can take it.
- Make peace with your past so it won’t mess up the present.
- Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
- Take a deep breath every now and then. It calms the mind.
- Get rid of anything that isn’t useful.
- Clutter weighs you down in many ways.
- Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.
- It’s never too late to be happy. But it’s all up to you and no one else.
- When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.
- Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy clothes. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
- No one is in charge of your happiness but you.
- Frame every so-called disaster with these words: ‘In five years, will this matter?’
- Always choose life.
- Forgive others and yourself.
- What other people think of you is none of your business.
- Time heals almost everything. Give time a little time.
- However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
- Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
- Believe in miracles.
- God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn’t do.
- Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
- Growing old beats the alternative of dying young.
- Your children get only one childhood.
- All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
- Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
- Envy is waste of time. Accept what you already have, not what you need.
- The best is yet to come…No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
- Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.
And then there is another reading that may enrich your life at this Christmas time.
It was written by Dr Randy Pausch in his book, The Last Lecture, one of the bestsellers in 2007. He sadly died of pancreatic cancer in 2008.
- Don’t compare your life to others’. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
- Don’t have negative thoughts of things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.
- Don’t over-do; keep your limits.
- Don’t waste your precious energy on gossip.
- Dream more while you are awake. Then act.
- Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
- Forget issues of the past. Don’t remind your partner of their mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
- Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don’t hate others.
- Make peace with your past so it won’t spoil the present.
- Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class, but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
- Smile and laugh more.
- You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree, then let it go.
- Negativity starts with you. Don’t respond to a friend’s happy greeting of: “Good morning, how was your weekend? with, “The weekend was too short and I have to come back here to work”.
- Be happy, be grateful, but don’t be content. There are many people who would sacrifice a lot to be in your place.
- Be positive, even in down times. Some may think you’re insane, but they would want to be like you.
- Call your family often.
- Each day give something good to others.
- Forgive everyone for everything.
- Spend time with people over the age of 70 and under the age of 6.
- Try to make at least three people smile each day.
- Don’t allow yourself to fall into compromising situations. You may live to regret some of them.
- What other people think of you is none of your business. You cannot control how others feel.
- Create support when you don’t need it. Then stay in touch with those family and friends. In life, things happen.
- Put God first in anything and everything that you think, say and do.
- God heals everything.
- Do the right things.
- However good or bad a situation is, it will change. Nothing could ever remain the same.
- No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
- Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.
- When you awake alive in the morning, thank God for it.
- If you know God you will always be happy. So, be happy.
- Life’s routes are all about choices, think before you make that choice, and when you do, you will be happy for it.
As I write this, some of the sayings seem so cheesy and old fashioned. But, I guess the question is not so much about the gifts you give at a time like this but rather the Giver. All of us love a Rolex watch but would a hug from a long-lost friend also be good and perhaps, a reconciled family, be even better and longer lasting. You decide and do with the messages what you want.
It remains for Homeloan Junction and this blog to wish you a wonderful Christmas season. Enjoy the fellowship of family and friends and take that breath that energises you for 2017. 2016 has been a tough year for many and it is difficult to ‘spin’ it any other way. But many have survived and even thrived in it; all need to feel gratitude even if only for their own sakes. Many of us have lost loved ones or things we held dear but, if you’re reading this with any sense of depth and meaning, you have survived to tell the tale. And it probably is true that ‘whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger’.
Yours in Property